Care4baby

Best known as being an active and vocal supporter of the UK AB scene. Care4baby aka Daddy Paul ( not the wetset one ) runs dozens of AB related community sites from messageboards, chatrooms, FAQs, Phonelines, set up countless Adult Baby online clothing stores, Ageplay escorts and AB Nurseries amongst other projects.. Always striving to push the boundaries forward and come up with new and interesting sites that offer something different for an ever hungry audience.

As well as a tireless Webmaster, Daddy Paul is a very experienced and respected carer and has an extensive collection of pictures drawn and coloured in for him from all the little girls he has looked after..and very proud of all them he is too - His goal is to one day get a big enough fridge to display them all on .

Care4baby Published Bizzare Magazine Article.

How did you discover you were a Daddy?
Its difficult to say actually I think for me it has always been there, I don’t remember an awakening moment. The feelings and the desires had always been there but they were deeply pushed down by growing up and conforming to how I should behave, these aspects of me have always remerged in my relationships where I always found a girl who needs guidance. I think deep down I have a need to be needed and that is a fundamental part of who I am.

What was your first experience like?
Its difficult to say actually I think for me it has always been there, I don’t remember an awakening moment. I started as an AB myself I had a “Daddy” who helped me immensely giving me what I sought and helping me come to terms with my desires but it was with him I realized I was on the wrong side of the changing table and I explored being a Daddy myself. Now I would only wear myself if the person I was playing with wanted me too, it doesnt specifically do anything for me.

Have you found it easy to find like-minded people?
Before discovering the internet it was near to impossible, since I have become involved I have discovered truly how many thousands of individuals there are all over the world who are in one way or another interested in the AB way of life

The internet must be an invaluable tool, but do you find it hard to find genuine people online?
In some ways yes, a lot of people have this fantasy that they wish to explore but cant for one reason or another. For others it is only a fantasy and they do not want to actually experience it. But there are plenty of people that explore this side of themselves either by themselves or with close friends or the majority with a loving partner.

What is it about being an adult baby/carer that appeals to you so much?
For me I enjoy the trust that these AB girls give over to you, its about in some ways the control of them for a short period, I enjoy making them happy, seeing them smile and express their true selves without fear of judgment. Just as we all do, they are seeking acceptance.

What are you expected to do for an AB as a parent?
For an AB who like to very young babies which means that you dress, change and feed them and give them lots of attention and cuddles perhaps bathe them and play with them as well. You talk to them gently, guide them physically You are infact removing them from their adult life and I it is the most important part of a scene. Most of the time the AB will mix in a little age play as well and so their desires will change according to the age they portray.

Do you think this fetish reflects on people's upbringing? (i.e. lack of love from parents or missing attention, etc)
In my experience is doesn’t, I’ve met many people online with all different life stories, no one common thread connects them I found. It works either way, if they had no love they may want to experience it, if they had enough love then they may want to rediscover it. I think their situation “now” is more relevant to them than their “past”, although both have some effect.

Have you had any good/bad experiences?
Like all forms of sexual and emotional expression things can go wrong, you try to avoid misinterpretations of what the other party is trying to gain from the scenes through communication before hand, but when you over step the lines and go somewhere you shouldn’t it can get very messy. I’ve had this happen once with a a Mummy and her Baby Girl. I was the father figure in the AB girls life and I overstepped the mark and hurt them both and regret it deeply. Fortunately we talked about it in great length afterwards and we have rebuilt the relationship but I was crushed at betraying this trust and decided that perhaps I was doing more harm than good and was ready to give in Daddying completely

Do your friends/family know about your fetish? If so what do they think?
No they don’t. I am in a loving relationship with an AB girl and like all couples it stays in the bedroom. I have a set of AB friends as well and they are just as important as my day to day friends to me.  I could tell my close friends and I know that at the most I'd get is “yeah so what  - why are you telling me this?” - Its really no concern to them and wouldn’t affect our relationships I dont think, Id maybe get the odd jibe,

Have you had any problems telling partners about your fetish?
My first partner just laughed. Which I still think was a nervous response. She wasn’t interested at all and found the whole idea a major turn off which I respected and it went no further. It didn’t destroy the relationship or anything we just never did anything about it, which saddened me.

Describe a typical role-play scenario and how it would be acted out. Do these scenarios always end in sex?
No, for some it is a completely non sexual form of expression. Babies don’t have sex. Sounds obvious huh? The ABies that express an older personality are more likely to wander into Lolita territory that is the control of a parental figure with an innocent exploratory sexuality, that’s pretty common in AB girls. Like most fetishes its rare to find someone who is completely into one thing, scenarios cross boundaries and therefore fetishes. A common mix is with fetishes like Ageplay, Spanking, Dom/Sub, Feminisation.

Why do you think infantilism is wrongly portrayed in the media as being linked with pedophilia?
Just one word - children.. That’s all they see. The fear and paranoia about Pedophilia is astounding. Thanks in a great part by the medias promotion of the lynch mob mentality. This enforced paranoia and the lack of desire to understand means that people don’t see the critical differences.

On a simple level - Pedophiles abuse children whereas ABies are consensual adults who become children - its that clear cut.

The AB scene to me, represents open mindedness, people who are not afraid to remember the past, those who haven`t succumbed to society's pressure to "put away childish things". ABies haven`t lost the value of "play", the hold on innocence they have is invaluable.  

Pedophiles are on the other hand are desperately lonely people who take pleasure from using children for their own sexual gain. They delight in the destruction of innocence and the consumption of the child.

You will find no greater enemy of Pedophilia than the AB community, who in part police the net reporting Pedophilia sites to the authorities. Fortunately the authorities are intelligent enough to clearly separate them and leave the AB community alone to mind themselves.

Describe your ultimate fantasy?
Okay..hmmm…Kiera Knightly, Kyle Minogue and Guage all dressed in my nursery playing with each other on the floor on a play mat.. Kiera looks up to me, arms aloft, ready to be picked up and with those incredible eyes locked to mine and says “Daddy – I need a change”. Oh boy..

What products are available to adult babies / carers?
Well the basics you can get from a high street chemist, the adult sized nappies, the creams, powders and other baby paraphernalia. There are full sized dresses, nappies plastic pants, cots, changing tables, highchairs, reins, pushchairs all available online. I list most of the stockists on my website. Although a quick search on Ebay under ADULT BABY will bring you most things your little self could dream of.

Do you use/own any of these products?
The majority of them.  Attending an AB can be like having real children when I travel to meet an AB girl its like mobilising a small army. My car boot is filled with all sorts of things to keep them wrapped, happy and amused.

Do you ever envision infantilism becoming more mainstream like other fetishes?
In my experience it is becoming more mainstream. Attendances at AB clubs is growing and the number of AB wesbites is booming as people are starting to figure out they can have a slice of this pie. are up, the number of AB clothing manufacturers is increasing and the number of professional Nannys and Mommys is increasing daily. But I doubt it will one day gain mainstream acceptance like the gay/lesbian movement because Infantilism like spanking or BDSM is a fetish and being gay is a sexual preference and that’s a fundamental difference.

Any advice for people interested in becoming an adult babies / carer?
Get online… this will really open your eyes and prove to you that you are not alone. The community is big and the support network growing. You will discover that there are many people like yourself who enjoy this fetish without the burden of fear or guilt that society has enforced on you with its misunderstanding of your desires. You are not harming anyone - experiment with your desires and you will become a happier healthier individual.